About six months after I arrived in Uganda, a group of
health and agriculture Peace Corps Volunteers closed their service and headed
home. The remaining PCVs, myself included, greedily grabbed up everything they
left behind and I inherited a tattered, well-worn pair of red Tom’s.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been giving away everything I
own, bit by bit. It’s strange to see Lindsey wearing the v-neck purple shirt I
brought from home, and Kelsey wearing the gray parachute pants I picked up in
Turkey, and Airi wearing the floral skirt I found buried in a mountain of
clothes laying on a tarp at a market in Fort Portal.
I am going home on December 18th. I am going home
next Saturday. I am going home in 7 days. I know that I am going home. I have
known for a long time now. But I haven’t been ready to admit it. I haven’t been
ready to say goodbye.
My life in Uganda has been complicated and simple and
beautiful and awful and invigorating and devastating and enlightening and
miserable. It has been everything. And the thought of trying to explain this
everything, to leave this everything and all of the people who understand its
everything-ness has been too much. Just too, too much. And so I pretend. I
pretend that Jenna and Andre will end up living in Utah. I pretend that I’ll
visit Linda in another state once a month. I pretend that Heidi and I will
miraculously learn to love talking on the phone and will chat at length every
night. I pretend that I’ll get a part-time consulting job with Peace Corps
Uganda and be back in a few months to see all of my friends who remain in
country for another year or more. I pretend that I’m not hugging Eric or Amanda
or Ravi or Paul for the last time. I pretend that my Ugandan friends, my
community, will still be there in 8 days. That Tracy and Edeth and I will drink
soda at Tracy’s house, surrounded by kids, soon. That Miracle will sit next to me
in church the Sunday after Christmas. I pretend and pretend and pretend.
And I think about my work here. I wonder if I am pretending
about it too.
Tomorrow is the last day of technical pre-service training.
I have spent the past month with a group of people who have seen me bravely
journey into connection; back out of connection. Into fear; out of fear. They
made me a book. A rhyming, adorable book that was signed in red thread. They
don’t know, couldn’t know, how many crucial, beautiful moments in my life hang
on books. My heart is book shelves. They wrote me a book and I love it. And I
love them. And somehow, picturing Lindsey and Kelsey and Airi in my well-worn
clothes warms me. Imagining Megan resting her head on my giant feather pillow
soothes me. Closing my eyes and remembering the red yarn tied loosely around
the wrists of the people I love and wrapped firmly around my heart comforts me.
Surprise! The members of my church threw me a party to say goodbye |
I am scared. But I will put on my red Tom’s covered in holes
and I will follow my thread to the next beautiful book.
Saying goodbye to the women in my community |
Out with the old & in with the new: the PCVs I've been training met the PCVs who are closing their service |